Infidelity can turn the most honest people into very convincing
liars for self preservation. If you pay close attention to her actions
and compare them to proven signs your girlfriend is cheating you should
be able to determine if infidelity is an option or if other problems may
exist.
The fact that you are suspicious to begin with indicates that she is not being 100% honest. The problem with having numerous partners is that the cheater starts developing a second life. A second life requires a lot of lying on your feet and even preparing elaborate alibis that are right for the situation.
It does not take long before the person being cheated on finds it obvious that something is wrong. They may not know exactly what the problem is, but I believe we are all conditioned that when your partner has to constantly come up with excuses and explain their actions cheating is the first thing on any ones mind.
Lets take a look at the common signs of cheating girlfriends.
Suspicious Activities
You may have found birth control in her purse when the two of you use condoms. Perhaps your noticing that shes going to the grocery store everyday for several hours. What ever it was that tipped you off it boils down to a drastic change in personality. One of the more common signs your girlfriend is cheating.
Cheaters become so engrossed in their fantasy world and covering it up that they slip up on some obvious things. For example a cheater could be frequenting a restaurant with her lover everyday.
The problem is that shes so fixated on her dual life that she is oblivious to how odd you find it that every day for dinner she is not hungry anymore. If this was only a one time occurrence you might chalk it up to a late lunch. Everyday would certainly put up a red flag for most.
Has your girlfriend become secretive and defensive? Does she get angry when you casually ask where shes been? Maybe it even seems shes been purposely starting fights with you for an excuse to storm out of the house.
If someone acted this way on a first date I doubt there would be a second so its safe to assume that this is a change in attitude. Its this sudden unexpected change that leaves most men fearing the worst, but get more evidence before you confront her.
Excuses for Everything
You would be surprised how little you have to explain to people when your not doing anything wrong. Cheating girlfriends are forced to lie to protect their secret life. Of course one lie leads to another and before long none of the stories make sense because they are all made up.
What drives you crazy as the person being cheated on is you try your very best to believe them. This is not only because you love the person and wish they would never do such a thing, but also psychological self defense for the ego.
It makes us as humans feel inadequate or like we could not fulfill our spouses needs. So you start stretching your imagination farther and farther to make their stories make sense.
This is a form of denial. The faithful party that is being cheated on almost needs the made up stories to be true. Just the thought of the person you care about so much being with someone else is enough to set your brain on overload. You having to make excuses for their stories to make sense is a huge sign a girlfriend is cheating.
Unexplained bills
Its one thing to spend too much at the mall and own up to it. You admit that you spent way too much and apologize. Your spouse might be a little steamed, but at least they know where the money went.
Cheaters can run up a pretty hefty bill and the most frustrating part is that when they are asked where the money went they play dumb. They are either unable to come up with anything at all to say, or they start lying about to protect themselves.
Aside from dinners and movie trips that they secretly take with their lovers, a cheating girlfriend could rack up monthly bills just to keep both relationships going.
Some things are necessary to sustain a long running affair without getting caught. Quite often a cheating girlfriend will get a separate cell phone account that is billed to their work address or possibly a friends house. It is much easier for you to never suspect a thing if you do not constantly see her trying to hide text messages and bills.
Some cheating girlfriends have more than one person they are being unfaithful with. This type of cheater is usually involved in some kind of online dating community, or maybe even several.
These sites require a monthly fee of usually $20 or less. If your cheating girlfriend were frequenting several of these sites you could notice $60-$100 a month that is unspoken for.
Unexplained Gifts
On the other hand, has your girlfriend had more money than usual? She could be the one in the relationship who is receiving money or gifts from the other guy. This is often overlooked as most people only question when money is missing. When extra money is added it is usually viewed as a happy coincidence and therefore unnoticed. Keep your eyes open for money both coming and going.
Statistically, these are the most common signs a girlfriend is cheating. When its all said and done your intuition or "gut feeling" is usually telling you that something is not right for a reason.
If she has been your girlfriend for any amount of time you know how she generally acts. By nature cheating forces people to live a lie. Their family and friends may not know exactly what they are doing, but they know that something is noticeably different in the way the person is acting.
Most, if not all people who have been cheated on will say that they should have seen the signs. They were all there and they even suspected them of cheating, but never pursued it very hard.
The fact that you are suspicious to begin with indicates that she is not being 100% honest. The problem with having numerous partners is that the cheater starts developing a second life. A second life requires a lot of lying on your feet and even preparing elaborate alibis that are right for the situation.
It does not take long before the person being cheated on finds it obvious that something is wrong. They may not know exactly what the problem is, but I believe we are all conditioned that when your partner has to constantly come up with excuses and explain their actions cheating is the first thing on any ones mind.
Lets take a look at the common signs of cheating girlfriends.
Suspicious Activities
You may have found birth control in her purse when the two of you use condoms. Perhaps your noticing that shes going to the grocery store everyday for several hours. What ever it was that tipped you off it boils down to a drastic change in personality. One of the more common signs your girlfriend is cheating.
Cheaters become so engrossed in their fantasy world and covering it up that they slip up on some obvious things. For example a cheater could be frequenting a restaurant with her lover everyday.
The problem is that shes so fixated on her dual life that she is oblivious to how odd you find it that every day for dinner she is not hungry anymore. If this was only a one time occurrence you might chalk it up to a late lunch. Everyday would certainly put up a red flag for most.
Has your girlfriend become secretive and defensive? Does she get angry when you casually ask where shes been? Maybe it even seems shes been purposely starting fights with you for an excuse to storm out of the house.
If someone acted this way on a first date I doubt there would be a second so its safe to assume that this is a change in attitude. Its this sudden unexpected change that leaves most men fearing the worst, but get more evidence before you confront her.
Excuses for Everything
You would be surprised how little you have to explain to people when your not doing anything wrong. Cheating girlfriends are forced to lie to protect their secret life. Of course one lie leads to another and before long none of the stories make sense because they are all made up.
What drives you crazy as the person being cheated on is you try your very best to believe them. This is not only because you love the person and wish they would never do such a thing, but also psychological self defense for the ego.
It makes us as humans feel inadequate or like we could not fulfill our spouses needs. So you start stretching your imagination farther and farther to make their stories make sense.
This is a form of denial. The faithful party that is being cheated on almost needs the made up stories to be true. Just the thought of the person you care about so much being with someone else is enough to set your brain on overload. You having to make excuses for their stories to make sense is a huge sign a girlfriend is cheating.
Unexplained bills
Its one thing to spend too much at the mall and own up to it. You admit that you spent way too much and apologize. Your spouse might be a little steamed, but at least they know where the money went.
Cheaters can run up a pretty hefty bill and the most frustrating part is that when they are asked where the money went they play dumb. They are either unable to come up with anything at all to say, or they start lying about to protect themselves.
Aside from dinners and movie trips that they secretly take with their lovers, a cheating girlfriend could rack up monthly bills just to keep both relationships going.
Some things are necessary to sustain a long running affair without getting caught. Quite often a cheating girlfriend will get a separate cell phone account that is billed to their work address or possibly a friends house. It is much easier for you to never suspect a thing if you do not constantly see her trying to hide text messages and bills.
Some cheating girlfriends have more than one person they are being unfaithful with. This type of cheater is usually involved in some kind of online dating community, or maybe even several.
These sites require a monthly fee of usually $20 or less. If your cheating girlfriend were frequenting several of these sites you could notice $60-$100 a month that is unspoken for.
Unexplained Gifts
On the other hand, has your girlfriend had more money than usual? She could be the one in the relationship who is receiving money or gifts from the other guy. This is often overlooked as most people only question when money is missing. When extra money is added it is usually viewed as a happy coincidence and therefore unnoticed. Keep your eyes open for money both coming and going.
Statistically, these are the most common signs a girlfriend is cheating. When its all said and done your intuition or "gut feeling" is usually telling you that something is not right for a reason.
If she has been your girlfriend for any amount of time you know how she generally acts. By nature cheating forces people to live a lie. Their family and friends may not know exactly what they are doing, but they know that something is noticeably different in the way the person is acting.
Most, if not all people who have been cheated on will say that they should have seen the signs. They were all there and they even suspected them of cheating, but never pursued it very hard.
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